Friends....your spice in life

How much is said and written about relationships. Today when I look around I have so many people who know me who are really good friends but there are just a few of them who really really know me and these are the people who I can really count on whenever I need them. 

In life we meet many a kind but it is always necessary to have someone whom you can share stuff or moreover could just meet and laugh away those sad feelings away that life bestows upon us. Life is not perfect always there are ups and downs and how you look at them is all that matters. You can either see them as a bumpy ride in one of those back breaking vehicles or you can see them as a joy ride which you will enjoy till the end.

I have a wonderful set of friends with whom I can share anything and laugh away till our tummy hurts and we have tears in our eyes. I love these people and cherish them. I have had bad people in my life as well, I say bad is because I hate it when people treat you like you are born for their convenience. They soon forget or rather dont even realise what all you do for them and then they try to take a walk on you. Trust me its better to throw such people out of your life the moment you see such signs. You rather be alone and happy than be with such people and hurt yourself.

I dont like to keep grudges cause people do what they have to do. All I do is forget....yes I forget that such people exist in the world. It is rightly said "Be the change you want to see"...so when I cant change a person its better I change and move on. 

There are many people who have lost friends, people who have walked out of their lives without any rhyme or reason...are such people really worth calling friends? When they can easily forget the time you both spent with each other how wonderful the friendship was then I think its best you too do the same...forget. I know some people say its difficult to forget and saying such things are easy but trust me I have gone through the same and within a few days I was back on track to my smiley self. There is no point in wasting time on such people.

I had been wanting to write this post for sometime cause I consider my blog this great canvas where I can vent my feelings and paint it with all the colours I want. 

Relationships or Friendships are very delicate, if let loose they can slip away or if held tight they will snap and break away. Enjoy your life you have just one after all. 

Relationships turned E-lationships

Heard a news lately that a girl (dont want to mention names here) an IIM Bangalore student committed suicide when her ex-boyfriend dumped her on the social networking site Facebook. His status message said : "Feeling cool today. Dumped my ex-girlfriend. Happy independence day."  I had been reading various things said about the boy, yes he was a jerk to do what he did. I dont even want to comment on such people.

But the girl, bless her soul, doing something that she did without once thinking about her family, friends and her future just doesn't feel right. Getting dumped on a public forum is heart breaking but not the end of the world. 

Its high time and with such incidences people should be aware that too much should not be shared on public forums about your life, you life that is private and needs just your comments or likes and dislikes. Talking about something general having a view, a debate is an altogether different thing and a healthy way to interact as well. Sharing pictures, videos and sharing your happiness is a great way of letting friends know you are happy. 

And if you have to share your very personal stuff...then guys there is a message tab where you can send out personal message and not let your entire friends list know that you had a horrible date, got a tattoo somewhere we dont want to know or for that matter dumped someone.

The social networking sites are not going to make things better for us but they are going to make it better for themselves where they will get some more features where maximum clicks are obtained, maximum exposure is obtained and our personal life is at stake. Also read an article today which says Facebook tracks what you do online even when you have logged out!!! Scared??? Read the article here and be careful. 

Coming back to the point why I actually started writing this post was to know what happened to Relationships that where built over coffee, over movies together, over long drives, over going for a picnic with friends, over that one look in the eye, over those perfumed letters....???? Okay I know letters were like decades ago...but all I can say is Relationships are now become E-lationships!!!! Everything is Online. Sometimes we call technology a boon but sometimes dont you think we overdo it? Well, each one has his own perspective, to each his own!

I am not against the social networking sites they are great, I have got in touch with so many long lost friends myself. Its a great way of connecting with one and all, knowing what the other is upto. The only thing I feel is that people should not be so addicted to it and some private details should not be blared out in the open.

And god forbid if someone does end up sharing lewd comments about you, let it be, show some dignity, just delete that person and move on. You dont have to stoop to that persons level and make a fool of yourself too. Such people dont deserve to be in your life. 

You are wonderful. Believe that, Smile and Move On!!!! J